Khushboo Madhusudan Gaur

Train your brain  To unlearn old and learn new habits Distractions are inevitable, how you spend your time is under your control, you have to see what is important and needed in life and what is a relative waste of time. Stop being a technology slave and start controlling your time, maintain self-discipline, and practice a doer attitude !!  No one will either wait for you or motivate you as much as you can do to yourself. Don't sit and look at your goal for too long, just get up and do it!! whatever that you are procrastinating for too long, whatever that is there in your mind for many many days and weeks and months now, stop thinking too much about it, stop giving excuses, what will people say, what if I will fail, what if people will not like me, I don't have the courage , whatever your limiting belief is, stop it then and there, get up and do it!! finish it!! finish a part of it, take baby steps, but don't stop. Write your goals and display them. Set up your day a night

This quarantine taught me something I left behind and kept on moving for 13 months, forgetting the fact, that moving at the same pace becomes tiresome, and to bring creativity, the pace needs some change now and then. I was sitting and planning for what to do next, and I've no idea which day was it! because I've lost track of time, don’t blame me! the days are too monotonous, even while I'm constantly doing something or the other, where people are busy making, sharing, laughing and resharing the memes that they are completely idle, believe me, I wasn't!! Contrary to this, I was constantly working on something or the other, from morning 5:30 (yes, indeed) till 3 am (yes, sure), which included, household chores, work from home hours, Ph.D., a nice, relaxing afternoon nap, binge-watching shows on every possible platform, walk, cooking, workout, and rest of the time was my fiancé’s and why shouldn't it be? especially when it was soothing and content, of co

Life is always going to be more difficult, uneasy and complicated. Surprisingly, that's how life is not only for you, you aren't special, but for everyone on earth. You'll always be judged, no matter what and where you start and where you end up because there's a simple rule that the universe follows; Entropy. Entropy explains why life always seems to get complicated each day, Murphy's law states: Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong and entropy explains it as.. Life has a tendency to destroy things and relations and make life as difficult as it can. 1) Don't drive your car for a couple of months, you won't be able to drive it any longer without charging its battery. 2) Resist saying I love you, or bring flowers or doing anything special for your wife or girlfriend, you know what's gonna happen next, and so the things would be the other way round. 3) the pieces of a puzzle will never fall to create a perfect puzzle. 4) your sandcas

There you go!! We take up a new job!! We leave!! We crib!! We argue!! We break up!! We stay!! We suffer!! We fall into guilt!! and pressure of being into things we never wanted to fall for. "Why me?" comes when we fail to answer "Why are we into this", it is important we pay attention to what we are doing and why we are doing before it is too late. It is important to know, WHY are you falling for certain things, certain stuff, certain people and certain places, even more important, WHY are you rejecting others? To make it simpler, I rejected A for B not because I love B more, but because I can't keep up with A... and that's traumatizing!! You need to know why you love B more, you need to know how B inspires you!! rejection of one is never a base for other selections!  WHY do you wish to switch your career, are you achieving the results, the salary, the satisfaction and the motivation for which you switched on the first place?? Your understanding of WHY simpl

#Guestpost by Mr. Sunveer Singh Bhambra ...and there's a mail again, and a call, and a mailer again!! oh there are orders to attend another workshop on leadership... with a usual message to bore us all... isn't it? "There's a Leadership Workshop planned for all of You, plz attend", " Become a better Leader", "Yes, you can, too, become a leader", so on and so forth, Every now and then, we keep hearing about Training Workshops on Leadership and how to be a successful leader, but seldom, is anyone concerned about being a "Team" member first. What do Leaders do? They lead and command with example and a display of what they want. To lead, one must first learn who will they lead and what will be the purpose? and to know the answers to these questions, one must be 'one' first. I wonder what a team member must be, giving it further thoughts, I could zero down my factors as: A team member must: 1) Know how to trust people around 2) Ha

Do What You Believe is Right!! Not What They Choose to Say... Should I hide the fact that I over think? Is it disgraceful to unveil that I can sit for hours and allow my brain to think endlessly...possibly, the answer would have been a YES if it had been written somewhere before 2016. But fortunately, this is 2019, and I no more carry that guilt. When I over-think I beat my own score and I become my own competition, to be honest, the event isn't really new, it’s been a while that I sit and think of things beyond my control and figure out reasons as to why have I been experiencing them? So I did what majority of the people do... I consulted few other people considering them the most knowledgeable around me, who confidently like real doctorate degree holders into over-thinking told me that this might lead to stress and sleeplessness and anxiety and they prescribed every possible remedy to help me come out of it, surprisingly the closest friends (of that time, you'll soon know why

For those few, negative reinforcement also works well, though speaking to a larger audience; it is the theory of the positive reinforcement that allows us to work more progressively. Isn’t it?  Don’t you feel hurt while listening to “ What do you do the whole day? ”, “ Your schedule is a mess ?” is it? Okay, let me stop instantly because now this will lead to an altogether new Musing “ Should they be allowed to judge our schedule ?” The reinforcement cycle, however, has a pure logic. A complex human thought process elucidates it simply; don't we usually highlight only the flaws around?  Give yourself a pause and think, why would a person do something wrong intentionally, and even if he does out of a habit. Is it his mistake that he is still working with you? Or maybe he’s wrong if he is still in a relationship with you…  Identifying only the problem areas and stressing on what and how they could have been better... is a mere process to ignite our cognitive trouble.  When was the la

Miles to Go!! Before I sleep... Often, I end up having an argument with my dear ones! Do you?? My most favorite and the most recent argument is “to be somebody or anybody in life!!”  The situation goes… Last night I was flipping through the pages of one of my favorite writer  Mahātria Rā ’s, “ Most and More”.  It was then, a phrase caught my attention, “ what do you want to be, somebody or anybody ”, made me explore it further, not like I am against “being someone”, but are we sure, one can enjoy the entire journey by being just someone??  At once, Like most of us, I felt yes! I want to be somebody in my life and considering, my clarity on my thought and I knew the other second, that I am born to be somebody who must create a difference in people's life. Somebody who could be an inspiration to the world having wings to fly to explore, come what may, I will reach my destination. With this thought, I went off to sleep. The next morning I figured, whatever goes on in our head is actu

Are we too late or too early to discuss this?? It was January this year when a lot of us made a lot of promises to ourselves, to achieve all those dreams we have been trying to achieve since all these years, some of us are done achieving already and are set to enter into new goals some of us are on the verge of it, still there are the ones who haven't yet started and few are those who are not able to even recall what were their resolutions. It seems as though every year this is becoming a custom to follow and another to un-follow our own resolutions! A survey was conducted on more than 15000 customers and the result was “the top resolutions were the old standby and 4 out of 5 people who make resolutions eventually going to break them”. Can you imagine? At least be happy you are not alone in this race!! But what is the need to join this race at all?? I was so surprised to see this has turned into a business for many, while I was researching few more articles and trends, I

Start Acting!! Recently, I heard something strange “yet again”, it's already been thousands of times, however, this time it made an impact and forced me to give it a stern contemplation so here I am, “The time wasn't good”, they said, without a subsequent thought I abruptly said, “Yeah happens! Sometimes, it’s just not our day” just when I finished my sentence, I realized how easily we blame time for our bad decision making, wrong judgments, procrastination and zero hard work, don't we?  Slowly it is becoming a kind act of self-counseling, telling ourselves that we are always the best at everything, it is time that has gone wrong, it is our destiny that just doesn’t work, it hurts me, even more, when people dwell on their past without realizing they are actually obliterating their present. Leisure was written by W.H. Davies in 1911 and it was then that he showed the present reality, how busy we are and what all are we missing on... Well, coming back to the point, when we sa

He was hired!! Yes! This was certain and we know this because his HR Manager recently gave him his appointment letter duly signed. Day 1, new office, new set up, new city, he entered the meeting room with an uncertainty, After hours of discussions, introductions and clarifications he said “I am your new manager, my cubicle is right next to your Finance manager’s cubicle and I am always available, mail me or text me anytime you’ll always be answered. Were his phrases out of fear of failure and a need for acceptance? He believed, such gestures would help him exercise soft leadership and would increase his acceptance rate, little did he know that this will soon be followed by a never-ending stream of questions, requests, demands and approvals at all hours. This happens to many of us. Isn’t it? This is one story, but do you find yourself being a part of Yes Vicious Circle ? Do you feel suffocated under the weight of your own calls, emails, messages, tons of unread WhatsApp messages and nev

Can we stop the blame game? For once? Photo by  rawpixel  on  Unsplash We’ve got the power to argue without facts, doubt without asking anything and without giving them a chance to present their point. We argue for hours without knowing the truth. Why can’t we try to trust them once?  Why can’t we try responding once?  Why can’t we hold on to our horses until they explain themselves? Not everyone is the same! Be kind, ask! Question them but be polite!  It may be because of a bad day at work!  Maybe a new annoying junior, bad traffic, terrible headache, sleeplessness, ruined expectations, missed leads, wrong communication, or social media addiction! Anything!  Why should they come and say “Sorry”? Get up and say “Thank You”. Say that you understand them and see the magic! Don’t Shout; Don’t Argue. Be polite; R E S P O N D .

Ms. Leena is a methodical, diligent, and  persevering   person. She possesses an ocean of knowledge , with a plethora of quizzes under her belt. Holding two master's  degrees, she is a scholar.  It is noteworthy that she hails from Rajasthan;  known for a low literacy rate, thus she is indeed a role model and an inspiration for young girls to become  successful and independent like her. They say "No one's busy, it's just a matter of priorities", and rightly so. When Ms. Piplani could manage to continue with her passion, so can you! We all live a parallel life, right? For her, the passion for quizzing   is the parallel life she has been living for 8 years. The blog Outlines her journey as she meets her current boss, Mr. Kunal Savarkar and gets into XpressMinds. "Born and brought up in Jaipur where quizzing stands on a very low level in comparison to other metro cities, you will rarely get a chance to participate in a quiz. Being a quizzing enthusiast I never