Khushboo Madhusudan Gaur

Train your brain  To unlearn old and learn new habits Distractions are inevitable, how you spend your time is under your control, you have to see what is important and needed in life and what is a relative waste of time. Stop being a technology slave and start controlling your time, maintain self-discipline, and practice a doer attitude !!  No one will either wait for you or motivate you as much as you can do to yourself. Don't sit and look at your goal for too long, just get up and do it!! whatever that you are procrastinating for too long, whatever that is there in your mind for many many days and weeks and months now, stop thinking too much about it, stop giving excuses, what will people say, what if I will fail, what if people will not like me, I don't have the courage , whatever your limiting belief is, stop it then and there, get up and do it!! finish it!! finish a part of it, take baby steps, but don't stop. Write your goals and display them. Set up your day a night

Do you even know me!?  Sometimes people just knock your door, enter your premise they spend a few months with you and woof, there you go! They know you!! No babe! Trust me! You don't!! You haven't seen me in all my phases, you don't know how do I react when it rains, I do not like it, but I do enjoy the rains when it is in the woods, far away. With the right company along, I like it the most, all drenched and dancing! And I might not even want drenching and dancing in the rain because on some rainy days, I want to just sit on the balcony and sip my coffee. You only know what I've told you so far. The kind of personality I chose to show you, you have no idea what phases I've experienced in my life, how I've grown to have experienced them. I am a mature person now, but I like being the kid I once was. You don't know how beautifully I master concealing my stress and worries under my smile. No! You will never know if it is real or fake laughter! Because so far,

“Yeh meri ladki nahi, ladka hai!” the moment a girl does something her parents are proud of!! why a girl has to be a son to make them proud?? “Ro kyun raha hai?? Ladki hai kya??” Why can’t he sob his emotions and yet remain the man of the house!! Any number of social reforms acts, and legal proceedings fail to change the thought process of the patriarchal society we live in. It’s like living in a world where rules aren’t made to curb the real-world issues but the same world has got enough rules to define men and women.  She was a girl until she turned everyone else’s head towards her because she chose to wear a shirt paired with trousers, a cap and sports shoes out in the sun busy playing street cricket with boys of her colony while other girls of the society were busy in their dollhouses, meanwhile, Gupta Ji ki beti was into market pampering herself with a new hairdo and accessories, she was in the salon getting herself a boy cut trimmed hair. And from that day on, she was

RESET! RESTART! REWORK! WIN IT!!  Yet another fussy morning, where I am caught in the vicious circle right in the morning, woke up late!! No light!! Couldn’t shower because “andhere mein to darr lagta hai” and the series followed by other drastic events and above all the show stopper for the day was this beautiful blue and charcoal Grey Silk Cotton Solid Saree with a Zari border!! Which isn’t ready to be draped around at all!! Just because it is new it has got all the rights to annoy!! YES!! This long description was of utmost significance because I am the kind of person when I get frustrated, I write a 200-word letter and 5 pages and remember the tiniest detail of all the events right from the 90s to 2019 and probably I might include future projections as well!! Saree carries an air of attitude, but what if it gives you back one?? Draping saree this morning was exactly like having it!! For 23 minutes to be precise, after creasing it out at 20 different places from tuck

Whats' your Priority? Despite the fact that it keeps changing with time!   Call it some societal pressure; or call it her upbringing, perfection is expected from every sphere of her life, given any amount of stress or pressure, she must "know it all" is a wonderful presumption and as she ages perfection becomes synonym to her name... these expectations put more pressure on her to balance everything that she holds in her kitty.  Oh No! I am not a feminist, I would rather prefer to stand against "fake feminism".  Because I agree with no shame and guilt that men handle the same, probably the more pressure to be a perfect son, a perfect partner,  a perfect husband, and a perfect father, and it is understood so well, that the things are changing, new notions are building, perceptions are improving, point of views are being accepted yet what remains constant is a  question.. "ladki hai, kar legi?"  All We want is to ensure that "ladki hai,

Do What You Believe is Right!! Not What They Choose to Say... Should I hide the fact that I over think? Is it disgraceful to unveil that I can sit for hours and allow my brain to think endlessly...possibly, the answer would have been a YES if it had been written somewhere before 2016. But fortunately, this is 2019, and I no more carry that guilt. When I over-think I beat my own score and I become my own competition, to be honest, the event isn't really new, it’s been a while that I sit and think of things beyond my control and figure out reasons as to why have I been experiencing them? So I did what majority of the people do... I consulted few other people considering them the most knowledgeable around me, who confidently like real doctorate degree holders into over-thinking told me that this might lead to stress and sleeplessness and anxiety and they prescribed every possible remedy to help me come out of it, surprisingly the closest friends (of that time, you'll soon know why

It was 17th July around 11:30 PM when my phone buzzed *Beep-Beep* one unread message. The message reads "There is a comment from your Ex-boss on my post, possibly by mistake, but you must not ignore, therefore thought to personally text you" and that comment reads "great job Khushbu". I decided to either like it or simply love it, see, how Facebook has restricted our chain of thoughts into simple clicks, even when we must not! A moment later, I was lost in the memories of what all we shared together while we worked, the amount of learning and support I had, and the faith she had in me. This is when I realized, that our relation deserves more than just a 'like' and it made me go back to the comment to ensure I don't lose upon an opportunity to thank the person who has been a mentor to me. Remembering her took my attention to many people, some of the old school friends, primary teachers, College friends, professors and sometimes, that person could be an ab

TOP 5 Things to do on a Weekend Friday is back! Is it?? Every time it comes with a new force, isn't it?? The weekends are to enjoy, to relax and to fill ourselves with the much-needed energy for the week ahead!! With due respect for the people who are still working, and will be working tomorrow, because my Saturdays aren't off!! While all the fun and laughter and dance and music and beer sink in... don't forget just one thing... that Saturdays, Sundays to some lucky people out there... Fridays are meant to recharge your brain for the coming week... And to make the most out of it, plan out at least an hour every Sunday evening or afternoon, to introspect because the weekend is a good time to do it, it allows you to both review the previous week's successes and failures and look ahead to the next week. Look what Forbes has to say... people are just trying to keep up with their day-to-day schedules, let alone finding time to plan ahead. In order to stay on top of all of y