Dr. Khushbu Bhardwaj

There you go!! We take up a new job!! We leave!! We crib!! We argue!! We break up!! We stay!! We suffer!! We fall into guilt!! and pressure of being into things we never wanted to fall for. "Why me?" comes when we fail to answer "Why are we into this", it is important we pay attention to what we are doing and why we are doing before it is too late. It is important to know, WHY are you falling for certain things, certain stuff, certain people and certain places, even more important, WHY are you rejecting others? To make it simpler, I rejected A for B not because I love B more, but because I can't keep up with A... and that's traumatizing!! You need to know why you love B more, you need to know how B inspires you!! rejection of one is never a base for other selections!  WHY do you wish to switch your career, are you achieving the results, the salary, the satisfaction and the motivation for which you switched on the first place?? Your understanding of WHY simpl...

RESET! RESTART! REWORK! WIN IT!!  Yet another fussy morning, where I am caught in the vicious circle right in the morning, woke up late!! No light!! Couldn’t shower because “andhere mein to darr lagta hai” and the series followed by other drastic events and above all the show stopper for the day was this beautiful blue and charcoal Grey Silk Cotton Solid Saree with a Zari border!! Which isn’t ready to be draped around at all!! Just because it is new it has got all the rights to annoy!! YES!! This long description was of utmost significance because I am the kind of person when I get frustrated, I write a 200-word letter and 5 pages and remember the tiniest detail of all the events right from the 90s to 2019 and probably I might include future projections as well!! Saree carries an air of attitude, but what if it gives you back one?? Draping saree this morning was exactly like having it!! For 23 minutes to be precise, after creasing it out at 20 different places from ...

#Guestpost by Mr. Sunveer Singh Bhambra ...and there's a mail again, and a call, and a mailer again!! oh there are orders to attend another workshop on leadership... with a usual message to bore us all... isn't it? "There's a Leadership Workshop planned for all of You, plz attend", " Become a better Leader", "Yes, you can, too, become a leader", so on and so forth, Every now and then, we keep hearing about Training Workshops on Leadership and how to be a successful leader, but seldom, is anyone concerned about being a "Team" member first. What do Leaders do? They lead and command with example and a display of what they want. To lead, one must first learn who will they lead and what will be the purpose? and to know the answers to these questions, one must be 'one' first. I wonder what a team member must be, giving it further thoughts, I could zero down my factors as: A team member must: 1) Know how to trust people around 2) Ha...

Dhal gaya din, baatein kuch adhoori si hain... This is what we all are looking for, isn't it? To let go off a day to bring in the breeze of the fresh Morning, the sunrise after a tough sunset. Each one of us is suffering from some issue or the other carrying the biggest possible fake smile which could hide all the tears and sorrows. A mask of bravery and strength behind which every personality is seeking some support some kind words and a pat on the back, ears waiting to hear "you can do it"! And here comes the ego, self-respect, responsibility and the position we all are sitting at from where none of us can afford to cry, to speak no matter how hard the heart is willing to scream and share all the grief with the world outside but the brain is way too logical to do that. IN PICTURE: SHUBHI KRITI SAXENA The solution to which is probably hidden in buying a car or a mattress, a right office chair or the clothes we wear, comfort is all we care but why do we rema...

Whats' your Priority? Despite the fact that it keeps changing with time!   Call it some societal pressure; or call it her upbringing, perfection is expected from every sphere of her life, given any amount of stress or pressure, she must "know it all" is a wonderful presumption and as she ages perfection becomes synonym to her name... these expectations put more pressure on her to balance everything that she holds in her kitty.  Oh No! I am not a feminist, I would rather prefer to stand against "fake feminism".  Because I agree with no shame and guilt that men handle the same, probably the more pressure to be a perfect son, a perfect partner,  a perfect husband, and a perfect father, and it is understood so well, that the things are changing, new notions are building, perceptions are improving, point of views are being accepted yet what remains constant is a  question.. "ladki hai, kar legi?"  All We want is to ensure that "ladki hai,...

Do What You Believe is Right!! Not What They Choose to Say... Should I hide the fact that I over think? Is it disgraceful to unveil that I can sit for hours and allow my brain to think endlessly...possibly, the answer would have been a YES if it had been written somewhere before 2016. But fortunately, this is 2019, and I no more carry that guilt. When I over-think I beat my own score and I become my own competition, to be honest, the event isn't really new, it’s been a while that I sit and think of things beyond my control and figure out reasons as to why have I been experiencing them? So I did what majority of the people do... I consulted few other people considering them the most knowledgeable around me, who confidently like real doctorate degree holders into over-thinking told me that this might lead to stress and sleeplessness and anxiety and they prescribed every possible remedy to help me come out of it, surprisingly the closest friends (of that time, you'll soon know why...

Another chance?  Too much to ask, too little time...! Too much to say, too little words...! Too much regret! Is there a chance to overcome...? What hurts more? Losing love or friendship? What is worth fighting for? And what is worth chasing? What gives you solace? And what is worth keeping forever? where you must dilute all the boundaries? What must demand all your attention? And in which relation should you cross all the limits to protect it? When there's this last thread of hope left... should you protect it? Or break it too? When do you decide to step out of a relationship? And when do you consider your friendship is on a ventilator? How do you protect it? And for that matter should you even bother?  One sided love is seen a lot, should you keep chasing one-sided friendship too? Forgo love for friendship or forgo friendship for love? when you must let go of your ego? Is it your friendship that's above respect or should respect be the base to define boundaries? and if at all...

For those few, negative reinforcement also works well, though speaking to a larger audience; it is the theory of the positive reinforcement that allows us to work more progressively. Isn’t it?  Don’t you feel hurt while listening to “ What do you do the whole day? ”, “ Your schedule is a mess ?” is it? Okay, let me stop instantly because now this will lead to an altogether new Musing “ Should they be allowed to judge our schedule ?” The reinforcement cycle, however, has a pure logic. A complex human thought process elucidates it simply; don't we usually highlight only the flaws around?  Give yourself a pause and think, why would a person do something wrong intentionally, and even if he does out of a habit. Is it his mistake that he is still working with you? Or maybe he’s wrong if he is still in a relationship with you…  Identifying only the problem areas and stressing on what and how they could have been better... is a mere process to ignite our cognitive trouble.  ...

Is it? It was 19:54 I was sitting puzzled as to why isn’t anything striking and When I unlocked my phone it displayed “ No match ”. I remembered the lines I once heard I have no idea where, so spare me for not giving the credits. “ We must be born with the tattoo that matches our soul mates so we don't fall in love with the wrong person in the first place. ” What fun would it be, if life would have been this easy? Life seems difficult for us to realize the true meaning and value of love, now that we have it, we must keep it to cherish it forever. We don't hate Roses for the thorns it has, do we? Anyway, so when it displayed “ no match ” I had no other option but to move ahead, isn’t something similar we do in real life?   I tried unlocking it again, believing it a new start and it might work this time, also, I will be more cautious. NO MATCH This time too, I couldn’t log in, but something changed on the wall, the story was different, such is life!! Every time a chapter closes...

Miles to Go!! Before I sleep... Often, I end up having an argument with my dear ones! Do you?? My most favorite and the most recent argument is “to be somebody or anybody in life!!”  The situation goes… Last night I was flipping through the pages of one of my favorite writer  Mahātria Rā ’s, “ Most and More”.  It was then, a phrase caught my attention, “ what do you want to be, somebody or anybody ”, made me explore it further, not like I am against “being someone”, but are we sure, one can enjoy the entire journey by being just someone??  At once, Like most of us, I felt yes! I want to be somebody in my life and considering, my clarity on my thought and I knew the other second, that I am born to be somebody who must create a difference in people's life. Somebody who could be an inspiration to the world having wings to fly to explore, come what may, I will reach my destination. With this thought, I went off to sleep. The next morning I figured, whatever goes on...