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Can love happen twice?

Is it?


 It was 19:54 I was sitting puzzled as to why isn’t anything striking and When I unlocked my phone it displayed “No match”.
I remembered the lines I once heard I have no idea where, so spare me for not giving the credits.

“We must be born with the tattoo that matches our soul mates so we don't fall in love with the wrong person in the first place.”

What fun would it be, if life would have been this easy? Life seems difficult for us to realize the true meaning and value of love, now that we have it, we must keep it to cherish it forever.

We don't hate Roses for the thorns it has, do we? Anyway, so when it displayed “no match” I had no other option but to move ahead, isn’t something similar we do in real life? I tried unlocking it again, believing it a new start and it might work this time, also, I will be more cautious.

NO MATCH
This time too, I couldn’t log in, but something changed on the wall, the story was different, such is life!! Every time a chapter closes, the page immediately flips open a different chapter of life, some, full of hope, others, just pressure to handle.

It displays a fresh article every time I unlock it, this time it was, “You can train your brain to fall in love” oh God! Is this, really this easy? When there is no match, can we actually let ourselves fall in love once again? Can love happen twice? Is it really easy to move ahead with life?

In this fast-paced life most of us have started believing in a notion that life is apart from our career, but life is actually a part of our career and to be Independent, career-oriented profile, adjustments, and compromises are way beyond our reach, but in reality, life is still the whole and career remains a part of it!

YOU CAN TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO FALL IN LOVE
On discussing “Can love happen twice?” I came across a few responses “I loved him”, “No, Of course not! Because she was a part of my life, and my entire life was for her”, “No matter what, even if that doesn’t make my soul happy, I loved her once, and I am going to stay back forever, no matter if she does not love me back”
When I further tried exploring, there was a moment of silence…

Why did you fall in love in the first place? Why did you break up? Why did you enjoy your relation when you did? This WHY being imperative still was difficult to answer.

The reason for the break up is enough to move on!!

Love < adjustments and compromises in a relation, if that is the case, certainly there isn’t and there wasn’t any love, and this decision to move on is worth it!!

However, the question remains the same! Can love happen twice? If it does, is it okay to fall in love again? Or there was no such thing ever?

Trust me, you certainly can! When there is no shame and guilt and no ego in moving on when you believe it is okay!! 
ENTER PIN
When finally I failed consecutively 5 times in unlocking my own phone, I had to do this “enter pin”, this pin is the key to enter my phone, and I could relate it to the society, the people around, friends, family, those who persist in keeping us away from this love happening twice thing, more than them, we are the real barriers in our own happiness, each one of them carries a part of the key to our life, and we allow them to rule us and our judgments.

What I believe is Love surely cannot happen twice! What first happened was more of adjustments, compromises, and negotiations, a fight for the exchange and rather who has a greater power over the other, and when you believe you’ve found love, exactly the way you’ve always wanted, go with it! Why not?

Former first lady of the U.S., Eleanor Roosevelt said it once, “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”, we don't allow love to enter twice because we have left so many human diaries around, why can't we be a little secretive or be completely bold, Face it!!

Even this device gives us a minimum of five chances, and a 30-second halt, then why can't we make enough attempts towards finding the love of our life, finding the right man and the right lady is such a big task! Certainly, we can!

Only when we are ready to remove the barrier of guilt and the notion of “love can happen only once” to stay at present!! And being able to face, that wasn’t love what we were into, we broke up because there were underlying issues, and be proud of our decisions.

The key to our happiness lies within us. To enter into a relationship of your choice and to fall in love all over again is way better than being into an unhealthy relationship.

Khushbu Bhardwaj
Khushbu Bhardwaj
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