Dr. Khushbu Bhardwaj

Isn't it beautiful how much trust we place in the people who protect us?  That same faith and trust we give to our parents, mentors, and loved ones can be extended even further—to the highest power we have. Whether you call it the universe, God, or something else, putting your trust in something bigger than yourself is a transformative experience. Recently, while driving, I found myself behind a father and his young daughter on a bike. The little girl sat fearlessly behind him, her tiny hands clutching his shirt, her school bag bouncing slightly as they moved along. The father was probably consumed by countless thoughts, navigating the road, keeping his child safe. Yet, the little girl? She wasn’t worried at all. She wasn’t concerned about how the bike worked or what might go wrong. She simply trusted him completely. And that trust? It struck me deeply. As I followed them, I couldn’t help but wonder: isn't this the way we should live? Like that little girl, trusting the higher ...

Respect and support are two major elements of any successful relationship.  When you start a new life with your partner you need to understand a few ground realities.  Your upbringing and his/her upbringing aren’t the same.  If you want him/her to change, it is okay to change for them as well.  It is okay if their likings and dislikings are not the same as yours.  It is normal for them to take time to understand a few of your habits and it is vice versa.  Just because their opinion and habits are DIFFERENT it does not mean they are WRONG. It is okay to have a difference in opinions. All they seek is your appreciation. And therefore, respecting their point of you becomes your utmost priority. Arguments are normal, and so is understanding their concerns and issues. Whatever they say, must be considered seriously and with all attention, without any presumption or quick judgment.  Just because your friend went through a similar situation and did a cert...

Train your brain  To unlearn old and learn new habits Distractions are inevitable, how you spend your time is under your control, you have to see what is important and needed in life and what is a relative waste of time. Stop being a technology slave and start controlling your time, maintain self-discipline, and practice a doer attitude !!  No one will either wait for you or motivate you as much as you can do to yourself. Don't sit and look at your goal for too long, just get up and do it!! whatever that you are procrastinating for too long, whatever that is there in your mind for many many days and weeks and months now, stop thinking too much about it, stop giving excuses, what will people say, what if I will fail, what if people will not like me, I don't have the courage , whatever your limiting belief is, stop it then and there, get up and do it!! finish it!! finish a part of it, take baby steps, but don't stop. Write your goals and display them. Set up your day a night ...

Do you even know me!?  Sometimes people just knock your door, enter your premise they spend a few months with you and woof, there you go! They know you!! No babe! Trust me! You don't!! You haven't seen me in all my phases, you don't know how do I react when it rains, I do not like it, but I do enjoy the rains when it is in the woods, far away. With the right company along, I like it the most, all drenched and dancing! And I might not even want drenching and dancing in the rain because on some rainy days, I want to just sit on the balcony and sip my coffee. You only know what I've told you so far. The kind of personality I chose to show you, you have no idea what phases I've experienced in my life, how I've grown to have experienced them. I am a mature person now, but I like being the kid I once was. You don't know how beautifully I master concealing my stress and worries under my smile. No! You will never know if it is real or fake laughter! Because so far, ...

Equality  यूँ तो हमने कई वादे किए थे खुद से, दूसरों से क्या ही उम्मीद करें, जब खुद से किये वादे ही निभा ना पाएं? कह दिया, "उन्होने हमारे लिये अवाज नही उठायी", दुनिया जब हमारे खिलाफ थी, हम भी कहां खुद के लिये खडे हो पाये? जब वो बदले, तो हमने कहा, "देखो वक़्त के साथ कितने बदल गये हैं।" जब हम बदले तो हमने भी कह के पल्ला झाड़ा "देखो वक़्त ही कित्ना बदल सा गया है", कोंन है जो ये फर्क़ ला रहा है? वक़्त ऐसा भी था, जब हम अकेले भी थे, जो आज साथ हैं, वो तब दूर ही थे। गुस्से में हमने भी कहा था, "अकेले लडेंगे, पर आपको ज़रूरत पड़ेगी तब खडे रहेंगे। जो हमारे साथ हुआ वो नही दोहराएंगे। पर जब वक़्त आया, रिश्ता क्या था? तो जैसे मानो भूल गये हो। जमाना, परिवार, दुनिया, और वो चार लोग, ना जाने कहां से बीच मेँ आ गये थे! खैर, मुद्दा तो तब शुरु होता है, जब उन्हे ज़रूरत थी, तो हाथ थाम लिया, नही थी, तो छोड दिया, ये कह के हमने भी उनसे रिश्ता तोड़ लिया! पर अगर बच्चे होते तो क्या ये रिश्ता हम तोड पाते? वही रिश्ते फिर क्यूं सह के भी निभा रहे होते? क्यूं तब रिश्ता तोड़ के दुनिया...

This quarantine taught me something I left behind and kept on moving for 13 months, forgetting the fact, that moving at the same pace becomes tiresome, and to bring creativity, the pace needs some change now and then. I was sitting and planning for what to do next, and I've no idea which day was it! because I've lost track of time, don’t blame me! the days are too monotonous, even while I'm constantly doing something or the other, where people are busy making, sharing, laughing and resharing the memes that they are completely idle, believe me, I wasn't!! Contrary to this, I was constantly working on something or the other, from morning 5:30 (yes, indeed) till 3 am (yes, sure), which included, household chores, work from home hours, Ph.D., a nice, relaxing afternoon nap, binge-watching shows on every possible platform, walk, cooking, workout, and rest of the time was my fiancé’s and why shouldn't it be? especially when it was soothing and content, of co...

“Yeh meri ladki nahi, ladka hai!” the moment a girl does something her parents are proud of!! why a girl has to be a son to make them proud?? “Ro kyun raha hai?? Ladki hai kya??” Why can’t he sob his emotions and yet remain the man of the house!! Any number of social reforms acts, and legal proceedings fail to change the thought process of the patriarchal society we live in. It’s like living in a world where rules aren’t made to curb the real-world issues but the same world has got enough rules to define men and women.  She was a girl until she turned everyone else’s head towards her because she chose to wear a shirt paired with trousers, a cap and sports shoes out in the sun busy playing street cricket with boys of her colony while other girls of the society were busy in their dollhouses, meanwhile, Gupta Ji ki beti was into market pampering herself with a new hairdo and accessories, she was in the salon getting herself a boy cut trimmed hair. And from that day on, she ...

Life is always going to be more difficult, uneasy and complicated. Surprisingly, that's how life is not only for you, you aren't special, but for everyone on earth. You'll always be judged, no matter what and where you start and where you end up because there's a simple rule that the universe follows; Entropy. Entropy explains why life always seems to get complicated each day, Murphy's law states: Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong and entropy explains it as.. Life has a tendency to destroy things and relations and make life as difficult as it can. 1) Don't drive your car for a couple of months, you won't be able to drive it any longer without charging its battery. 2) Resist saying I love you, or bring flowers or doing anything special for your wife or girlfriend, you know what's gonna happen next, and so the things would be the other way round. 3) the pieces of a puzzle will never fall to create a perfect puzzle. 4) your sandcas...

Oh, they are precious! I love to carry them and sometimes flaunt them too. The best part of having them is they work as a natural human (Male) repellent too! These have given me a new title altogether, and people ask, why do I adore them? Why can’t we just be proud of something we’re born with? Why do you wish to get rid of everything that seems imperfect to the world? the more we are obsessed with getting rid of something and curse it, the more they appear and the more they stuck! Isn't it? Studies have proved it, and I have experienced this fact. Well talking of the craziest questions raised rather rumors spread for people with dark circles are the funniest ones. “she must be in a relationship, ask me!”, “she doesn’t seem happy with him”, “she doesn’t get enough sleep”, “She’s too much into book yaa”, “she doesn’t have a schedule.” “She’s too lazy to do something for herself”. My life is therefore controlled by my dark circles and people’s judgment and opinion over them, and leas...