The 6 Honest Men Explains how to Get Rid of Toxic People

Is this Negativity that is Surrounding You?

तिनका कबहुँ ना निन्दिये, जो पाँवन तर होय,

कबहुँ उड़ी आँखिन पड़े, तो पीर घनेरी होय।

~कबीर दास जी

एक छोटे से तिनके की भी कभी निंदा न करो जो पांवों के नीचे दब जाता है। यदि कभी वह तिनका उड़कर आँख में

आ गिरे तो कितनी गहरी पीड़ा होती है।

Once upon a time, there was a knife and a small needle, the knife had a very

sharp blade, his master used it every single day, it was shiny and a handle

made of wood, giving the knife a beautiful, elegant look, for cutting vegetables,

fruits, salads, opening jars, and what not, whereas the needle was teeny tiny

and no glow and was kept forever in a drawer unnoticed. The needle felt

dejected while the knife was rejoicing...

One day, the master saw his shirt and noticed there's a button missing, knife

stood up upright thinking it’s his turn again to please his master but this was

time to open the drawer.

Never underestimate the power of even the teeny tiny smallest thing and sometimes that teeny tiny small thing could be your emotions, your hidden creativity or your skills which over the period of time has lost its worth!

Coming to this point I remember the quote written by Sir, George Eliot, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”

Our 6 Honest Men are back from work, here's what they have to say...

1. Who

Whom we need to get rid off?

Sometimes in life, there are people who act as hard rocks in our lives, these are monsters who look like Humans. Their job will only be to constantly pick you, constantly tell you what all you cannot do, and how little your ideas and skills are.

We need to identify them to get rid of them, as early as possible, in order to unfasten the knot and let ourselves fly high.

1. These people will never be happy with your progress.

2. They will always try to pull you back.

3. They will always push you somewhere, where you know you don’t belong.

4. They will sound sarcastic.

2. What to do?

1. Remind yourself, they will remain there, surrounding you, always, had been in ancient times, and will remain forever. 

2. Accept the reality, spend time and surround yourself with only like-minded positive people, meditate, and be in a relationship with people who push you ahead towards your goals. 

3. Learn the art of Ignorance. There is an old saying “Never argue with an idiot”, “He has more experience being one.” So why argue? 

4. Do what is right and not what is easy. 

5. Understand and empathize with the negative person, if the person is important to you if they are close to you, try and understand their situation, before we judge them and try solving their life issues. 

6. If any such person surrounding you is constantly picking, arrogant, questioning every act, getting involved too much and becoming toxic to your mental and physical and professional or educational health, then finds ways to spend less time with the one.

3.  How

1. Be calm, remind yourself, you are not here to argue, but to work and finish off with your target.

2. Design your boundaries, at the very beginning, you will always have an option to dissolve

the boundaries, but there will never be a chance to remain on good terms and extend

boundaries.

3. Ignore them and avoid

4. Don’t listen to the haters and toxic people, use more thank you (I don’t need that, No, I

don’t listen to that/ I have some urgent work to finish) and more sorry (I am busy, Can’t make

it), don’t enjoy gossips with them.

4.  Why

Because everything comes at a cost, be it a commodity, a service or your life, your life has a cost too!! You need to figure out are you at a loss, or at a profit, despite being in that relationship??

What is your cost of being in that relationship?

5. When

You are constantly losing yourself, your identity, your happiness and your peace.

You can’t be who you are, if you are making major sacrifices, major compromises, or if you aren’t able to fulfill your dreams.

In a Job, you aren’t happy or being bullied or harassed and you know this is a cost you are paying to earn a penny at the end of it because you are worth more and you deserve more!!!  

One man is still missing, tell us who...

Say No Once said, don’t back up on your No!!!

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